Semi- Minimalist

A while ago I talked about becoming a minimalist; at least my definition of it.

I am proud to say that I AM GETTING THERE!!!! 🙂 lol

I have not only put half of my closet on Poshmark and donated some. I have taken another step and started getting rid of books! For anyone out there that is also a bookworm; I feel ya. I love the smell of books. I don’t know why but there is something so satisfying with opening a brand new book or even an old one and just smelling that book smell. I love it.

SO I MADE HUGE STEPS!

I got rid of over a dozen books and even cds and DVDs cuz let’s be real I don’t listen to them anymore and I mainly use my Bf’s Netflix account anyways.

It just feels so nice accomplishing little goals, granted my closet is still jam-packed with clothes I’m selling on Poshmark but every time someone buys stuff I get a tad bit excited that one day when I open my closet door, it will be clear and clean!

I have become unattached to pieces of clothing. It’s like a fresh of breath air. Yet, there are times I falter; like when I get a great deal on Poshmark….I buy things…not often but I can’t let go of a great deal! ( I’m only human after all!)

This has honestly taken almost two years to do. At first it was just a thought. Then a discussion with my best friend. Until FINALLY I put my big girl pants on and decided to attempt to clear out my closet.

It took me roughly 8 months to actually take action on what I said I would do. Why? I didn’t know where to start! At the time I was so overwhelmed with all the stuff I owned that I had no idea where to begin.

A little advice….start with clothes lol always start with your clothes.

Why? Well, for me personally starting on clothes was the hardest thing to do because I get emotionally attached to clothing. I’m not even kidding if my friend gave me a sweater even though I rarely wear it…I keep it for sentimental reasons. Yet, it just takes up space in my closet. So I started on the one thing I had the hardest time getting rid of…my clothes!

Advice I’m always told that you should do the thing you least like first and welp this was that one thing for me.

So in a sense it worked out pretty darn well for me, but patience is a virtue and it didn’t happen with a snap of my fingers.

I really had to just pile things in the giveaway pile and the Poshmark pile and not second guess myself.

I had to be okay with spending time getting rid of stuff. I spent several hours during the weekend and an hour or two after work on weekdays deciding what to keep and what to lose.

In a way it’s therapeutic. Out with the old and in with the new! If you’re attempting to be a minimalist or even a semi- minimalist like me good luck and find out what works best with you.

I’ll check back in sometime soon and hopefully by then my closet is cleaner! Fingers crossed!

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More than just a Runner

One of my passions has always been running..it has helped me get to where I am now. It has helped shape the person that I am. It wasn’t always easy and definitely not always fun (especially the college days)  I fell in love with running because it was my social life and it was my stress reliver. But things change and we evolve.

By the time I was 18 that changed, I went to college, had new teammates and a new coach….suddenly I was constantly in trouble: from the way I ate to my bubbly personality was a problem. I was no longer allowed to be me; but instead a robot. I felt like I was in the military. We needed to dress the same at practice, never smile, and never talk. We were scrutinized on how we ate and how we looked, to the point that being unhealthy received praises.

Running has always been a part of my life and always will be; but college changed it all for me. I used to love competitvely running but as soon as I got to college it was a different story…constantly being told you are replaceable and never good enough dug deep and turned my confidence into concern. I was surrounded by negativitity, my once love of staying all day at cross country meets and track meets turned into I could spend my time doing something more with my life.

Running was a risk I took in high school that gave me an abundance of opportunity but as I have gotten older the truth is I love running but not the same as I once did in high school. I always loved track more than cross country when I was younger but now  I like road races more, I like running in nature, I like doing things on my own terms and my own time.

Running has opened the door for me to take risks. It has helped me continue to take many risks and sometimes I fail but I always get back up because running taught me that. If it wasn’t for running I wouldn’t have taken the risk of moving to a different state and giving another college team a chance to change my mind about collegiate coaches/teammates.  I wouldn’t have risked moving back home and into the unknown if I hadn’t taken a chance on running. I wouldn’t have taken a risk starting up a blog and a YouTube channel if I hadn’t taken a chance on running.

The truth is running turned into one of the best things in my life.

It opened doors I dreamed about as a little girl; yes, I got to go to my dream school and represent it. Was it what I anticipated? No, it was a horrible experience but it was a life experience that taught me that it doesn’t matter what people think of you and say to you. What matters the most is how you see yourself.

It took me several years to get what those coaches told me out of my head and the funny thing is neither one of them are in my lives to this day and by the grace of God never will be in my life again. I am grateful for all the verbal put downs because it taught me that bad times are only temporary and that you are a hell of a lot stronger than you thought. It prepared me for the ups and downs of life. It taught me to be calm during storms in my life and it taught me that no matter what happens to continue to perservere. It taught me that I deserved better, I deserved to be surrounded by positive people who truly care about me. It taught me that I have a voice and I matter.

Running has inevitably taken a back seat in my life, it is no longer in the drivers seat. I don’t freak out over how many miles I run a week, I go based on how I feel and how it makes me feel. I no longer compare myself to other runners, to be honest I stopped following a ton of runners on social media for the sake of my mental health.

I rarely run with people who only care to talk about running because I have evolved I want to talk about more than just running because I am more than just a runner. I have other interests besides running,  I have a full time job while having two part time jobs that I consider my hobbies and running is my me time, my stress reliever, my inner peace.

I am proud to say I love running and that I am a runner but I am so much more than just a runner and I am becoming the person I am meant to be.

Of course with the help of running opening doors and even opening my eyes to the possibility. So always believe in yourself even if at times it is hard. You have to power to change your future and look at every setback as a lesson, look at every heart break as a blessing in disguise, just like the name of my blog I still believe that everything truly does happen for a reason.

It Takes Two

In my quest to become more of a minimalist….which has taken over a year. ( I know….it’s  trial and error over here figuring out what works best with me…everyone is different) I am not the type of person that can look at clothes and throw it away just like that. I have emotional attachments to things….you can ask my boyfriend (LOL) I named my car Barry  ( for Blueberry LOL) and he is slowly dying but I don’t want to give him up…..and I won’t until he is completely dead.  We’ve had a ton of memories.

So I have had to get the help of my boyfriend who quite frankly is a minimalist. Literally before we started dating I had no idea that he is a minimalist. I really didn’t think I had a huge problem with stuff until I saw his closet and his room. Granted women tend to have more stuff…..because well guys don’t generally wear dresses…at least not as much as me, nor do they typically wear bras but……this is a learning process and unfortunately it’s been a slow learning process for me.

I figured I need someone to keep me accountable…like for reals…..I used to be that person that literally went on Instagram to online shop. It became a big problem. Since my boyfriend has been helping me…..I actually have gotten better. One of my favorite online clothing stores was actually have a huge blow out sale because they are moving warehouses sooooo EVERYTHING was like $14.99. It is a girls dream!!! And yes, I added a ton of clothes to my cart but I told myself to not buy them…to wait on it and thanks to other women….most of the things I wanted were out of stock when I checked my cart back an hour later. So YAY!! It’s the small victories guys!

To speed the process my boyfriend has even agreed to raid my closet of all the clothes and stuff I should get rid of.  I am putting things in piles to sell on Poshmark and piles to donate to Goodwill. So far…… I have a couple of books to donate to Goodwill and I have a ton of boxes that I can put stuff in.

My only concern currently is that my boyfriend and I will argue over what clothes to let go and what clothes to keep. I currently have 25 dresses….which is (for me) a big deal because I am that girl who owns a ton of dresses. LITERALLY, a year ago I had over 60 dresses. It was bad. So this is a fresh of breath air, unfortunately I also have a ton of running clothes and shirts…..those have been surprisingly much harder to get rid of but my boyfriend is brutally honest on clothes he thinks is ugly so this shouldn’t be too bad.

Let’s hope by next week my closet will be clean and spacious. I am actually sitting here getting super excited about it. ( I know it’s kind of lame but hey it’s the little things remember) 

For me…. It’s gonna take two of us to help me become a minimalist. Fingers crossed that it works out for the best.

Less is More

As I have gotten older I’ve realized that less is more. It really is. To be frank…sometimes having too much isn’t good. I have too many clothes… it is overwhelming picking out an outfit. It’s always “I don’t know what to wear” or ” I have nothing to wear” when in reality I have a closet overflowing with clothes. When I was growing up, I went to a private school so my wardrobe was very limited…all I had in my closet was my uniform…a couple of hand me down uniforms from my brother and then a couple of regular clothes which were also hand me downs from my cousins.

It was simple and easy. Such simpler times. Unfortunately I grew up and well my wardrobe got bigger…. I was a cross country and track & field athlete sooo I ended up with lots of running clothes…….I started to work…..sooo I ended up with business-casual clothes…..followed by going to weddings…..I ended up with a bunch of maxi dresses. Soooo next thing you know….I have a closet overflowing with clothes. Some worn once others are clearly loved and ones that have never been touched.

There are times when I actually miss having a uniform. It made my life easier. I didn’t have to prepare the night before…picking out my outfit. I already knew what I had to wear. Now I spend hours trying to decide what to wear…..don’t get me wrong it’s totally fun! but it’s also totally not. When I’m short on time and I can’t decide what to wear….it’s harder.

Not only that but fashion changes constantly……some clothes are in fashion and then with a blink of an eye they are no longer in style and next thing you know you are Poshmarking it.

It’s hard sometimes….some things haven’t changed. I still get hand me downs from my cousins but I now get hand me downs from friends as well….so that doesn’t help with picking out outfits. I have become attached to some clothing which is bad. I mean it makes sense getting attached to a prom dress ( in a sense ) but it doesn’t make sense getting super attached to all your dresses, especially ones that were never worn.

Hopefully I can get back to having less because it does make things simpler. It does make things easier and honestly it would be nice not having to wash so much! It not only saves money but also time folding clothes.

So here’s to less is more…….hopefully by the end of the year….I have that.

Minimalism Check In

So for over a year now I have been trying to become a minimalist, granted not the Project 33 minimalist but I am trying to become more of a minimalist in a sense of where I am comfortable with a more simple lifestyle. It has honestly been a challenge. I unfortunately accumulated many items since living in two different states.

Another challenge that I have found that has become an obstacle in my quest to be a minimalist is the fact that every time I have a new job…it means a different wardrobe.  For example, working with children, I was given several t-shirts that are my uniform. SO that added to my wardrobe.

I came up with a rule that if I bought one brand new clothing item, I would get rid of 5 items….it works pretty well but it still doesn’t help me achieve my ultimate goal. It rather slows it down a tad bit.

I have been stuck for over a year trying to cleanse my closet of clothes, yet it has actually taken my boyfriend helping me with this. LOL I thought it would be wise to sell my excess clothes on Poshmark because honestly someone else could probably utilize it more than I have. Especially the clothes I own that I haven’t worn ever. I seriously have a dress problem.

In my quest, I have found that becoming a minimalist doesn’t just end at clothes but in everything. While cleaning out my bathroom, I realized I have a ton of excess stuff I don’t need. I mean it’s like I am a hoarder that doesn’t want to go shopping for supplies. I have a plethora of shampoos and conditioners as well as toothpaste and mouthwash so I don’t ever run out. The pro to that is that I don’t have to go out and buy more but the con is that it is taking up space under my bathroom sink.

Not only has that become a problem but I also forget that I have things such as razors and I go and buy more…..I have come to the conclusion that I not only need to be accountable of all the stuff I own but I need to pay more attention to the things I really don’t need. For example; I wear sunscreen everyday. I won’t go outside unless I am wearing sunscreen ( melanoma runs in my family) so I have a tendency to buy lots of sunscreen WELP! I found several cans of spray sunscreen as well as the lotion kind and sunscreen doesn’t last forever. SOOOO I have several expired sunscreens and let’s be real here…..sunscreen nowadays costs like $15. I have essentially wasted sunscreen!

So from now on, I am trying to be accountable for everything I own….not only clothes. Granted one of my best advises I can give you is to tell someone you are trying to be more of a minimalist…..they can keep you accountable and help you with this endeavor.

Look, I have been trying to become more of a minimalist for over a year, but I’m not perfect and there have been several bumps in the road…hopefully if you try this endeavor you will figure out what works best for you! For me these have been the most useful things in accomplishing my goals…slowly but surely they have been working.

  1. Tell someone so that you can stay accountable
  2. Ask yourself do you really need this?
  3. You can turn becoming a minimalist into a side hobby by selling excess clothes on Poshmark
  4. Keep a list of all the supplies you have…so you won’t have excess supplies
  5. Clean out everything not just your closet but slowly clean out other stuff
  6. Stay focused on your goal

 

Good Luck with your endeavor! Hopefully you get to a place where you are comfortable with your minimalism.

25 Things I learned from College

When I was a college student there were several things I learned as a former student-athlete that helped me get through the tough times in college. Even then, some of them I learned after graduation day.

1. Time Management is key. Especially as a student athlete this was very important for being successful in college.

2. How you see yourself matters the most. One of the hardest things I learned as a student athlete was that how I see myself is more important than what my coaches saw.

3. Surround yourself with positive people. Honestly it took me leaving college to realize this one. It’s extremely important to surround yourself with positive people that say wonderful things about you. That believe in you. That love you for who you are and support you no matter what.

4. Shut out the noise. One thing I failed to do was shut out the noise. I got so used to hearing coaches tell me how I’m replaceable or a jelly donut that I started to believe the lies.

5. Always believe in yourself. Always….I know there will be times when you will doubt yourself but always believe in yourself. That is one of the most important things to remember. Life isn’t going to be easy, but you are strong enough to ride the waves.

6. Positive Self Talk. This one helped me throughout my entire college career. I honestly kept telling myself it gets better….even if it didn’t. That is what got me through the hard days.

7. Support system. Whether your support system is small or big it’s important to have people who are there through thick and thin. People you trust your life with. Keep them close.

8. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Yes, maybe you didn’t get an A on the midterm but there’s always improvement and you can come back on the final.

9. When you’re stressed out find an outlet whether it’s meditating, hiking, reading, yoga etc…it’s important that you find an outlet.

10. Self-care is important, fake it til you make it. If you’re not confident, dress up, take care of yourself. Self-care means loving yourself and letting yourself grow.

11. Patience. Good things take time. Let yourself learn from your mistakes. You will get there, don’t worry.

12. Embrace the struggle, it is helping you become the person you are meant to be. It will make you stronger and you will realize why situations happened to you.

13. See all hardships as a way to grow and learn from it. Challenges help us change for the better.

14. Do not ever compare yourself to others. Don’t do it. It takes away from you focusing on your goals. It takes away from you living your life.

15. If it won’t matter in 5 years, you shouldn’t spend 5 minutes worrying about it. Don’t waste time stressing out over silly things.

16. You can only control how you act and react to situations. Remember that.

17. Be kind to others even if they are unkind to you. Kill them with kindness.

17. Always work hard and focus on your goals.

18. Live the life you want. Don’t spend life regretting things or risks you didn’t take.

19. Do spontaneous things, it might be one of the best things ever.

20. Learn to love and embrace rejection, it’s a part of life.

21. You are stronger than you think don’t ever forget that.

22. Not everyone will love you and that is okay. Not everyone will like you but always be respectful towards them. It shows true character.

23. Set aside personal time for yourself. Treat yo’self!

24. Do the right thing. It might be easy to cut corners but you will thank yourself in the end when you reach your goals.

25. Remember it’s your life enjoy it! And don’t let people tell you how to live it.

Summertime Sickness

One of the most frustrating things that could happen to you…is when you get sick during the summertime. The summer is for going out and exploring but not when you are cooped up in your room trying to get rid of a cold ( or at least you thought it was a cold but it’s turning out to be a lingering one)

The funny thing was, I got sick during a heat wave; where it was over 100 degrees in my hometown. It was awesome. LOL I thought I was going to get rid of my cold fast because it was so hot I would sweat it out while taking medicine; but that didn’t happen. As for my running…..well let’s just say I went from building up my mileage to 40 miles and then just with a snap of your fingers….I was at zero again.

Whatever strain of sickness I had just wouldn’t let me breathe let alone stop coughing for at least 5 minutes. As I sit here, I counted 7 days…hoping by the 7th day it would get better but NOPE! LOL I somehow thought my cold was only a head cold but instead it had trickled into my lungs. (AHHHH What is this?!?!)

DayQuil and NyQuil usually help me get rid of colds within days but boy whatever I had really drained me. I even kept eating spicy food in the hopes that that too would work…but again it wasn’t doing much other than helping me blow my nose a lot because of how hot I made my food. (HAHAHA)

I got out my humidifier and use it daily….always refilling and cleaning it, in the hopes that this too would work but so far my boyfriend laughs saying I vap my Vick’s Vapor Humidifier. The Ricola helps soothe my throat but it doesn’t help stop all the coughing.

It seemed that no matter how much tea, medicine or other thing I was doing to get rid of this cold….nothing was helping. I mean granted yes, my nose did clear up a bit but not completely. I finally was able to run for 20 minutes on the 7th day but I had to stop to cough up a bunch of mucus and man was I slow at running. My body felt all achy.

The thing that sucks though is that I have to rebuild my mileage very slowly just in case I end up getting sicker. My whole training is off schedule which does suck a tad bit. ( I should be doing workouts but I’m clearly not)

My fitness level should be better but it isn’t. Sometimes you unexpectedly get sick and just have to roll with it. Hopefully this doesn’t last two weeks or more than two weeks because that would just be no bueno. Hopefully by next week I’ll be able to breathe and run without any problems.

Summertime sickness is never fun; and to be honest I think it’s far worse than getting a cold during wintertime. It’s just not fun being stuck inside when it’s so lovely outside.

So hopefully by next week this can be gone.